Question of the day?!?

Would you date someone less than attractive? So many times I have heard women say that if you date someone handsome then you are going to get your heart broken. How true is this? Are cute people the only people who cheat or abuse? Personally I think not. But what do you think? I do feel that people who are constantly told that they are attractive MAY start to be vain and take advantage of their looks. But are all cute people awful lovers?

Truth

As women, do you think we are responsible for one another. There are so many,what a friend of mine call "back-door hoes", and they will take a piece of a man or someone else's man just to be able to say they have a man. What do you think?? Also, who is playing who in these situations? I think some women get things totally twisted. They get what they think is pleasure or a boost of confidence when they can say that they have had someone lse's man. But, I pose the question...is it confidence?? Personally I feel that it is quite the opposite. You weren't chosen because you were so beautiful, best body, dressed well, or any other reason such as that. Let me school the "back door hoe". You were chosen because you let it be known that you have a low self esteem. You don't think highly of yourself and you are desperate. You have a hard time finding a worthy man of your own so you rely on the fact that another woman chose him so he must be worth something. You need to be validated by a man to feel beautiful and worthy because by yourself you are empty. Doesn't that sound more like it my real women. I feel so Blessed to have gone thru my trail because thru it all...I still stand...CONFIDENT, STRONG, and ANOINTED! I am a whole woman by myself. I didn't result to a rebound man or another woman's man or anything. I picked up my bible and said LORD...DO YOUR WORK! What do I have now??? This man who daily asks me to marry him. He tells me how badly he NEEDS me in his life. How he is afraid to lose me. He offered to take off and get a marriage license as soon as I say I'm ready. AMEN!! See what being a quality woman will get you. See what knowing who you are and whose you are will get you. See what trusting the Lord will get you!! We as women have to stop giving men the power to do whatever they want. Hold ourselves at a higher standard. Learn to deny our flesh and feed our spirit. You have more to offer than whats is between your knees. Demand respect ladies and know that we do hold a certain amount of responsibility for one another. If I see you struggling and I call my self a Christian I am supposed to give to you if you ask and I got it. If a man approaches you and says I got a girl/wife but we ain't gettin along, you say "I will pray for the two of you, have a nice day!"

By the way

There is no way that you know me the way you should by now. Too bad for us. I thought we could make it thru anything. But as they say, the only constant is God. I thought I had a friend in you. The fact that we were lovers made the compound even more intimate. Now what do I have? A bowl of doubt and your love pokes at me like a fork. Stop It! If you don't I will explode soon. I'm trying to hold back from revealing too much of what's going on in my head. I see you like to point the finger of blame on me. My words and how I spoke them to you. Not only are you sensitive, you are weak. Call me when you grow a backbone. To lead a home and a family you are going to need one of those. While you are shopping for a backbone...pick up some integrity. Also, you will need a pound of self control and at LEAST a pinch of manhood. Believe it or not, all of this is FREE! You just have to seek it or else...you'll pay. Let me be clear about one thing, I am NOT your mother. Don't want to be. Refrain from saying that I try to be her because I have told you what to do a time or two. Be real, you wish I was her and then you wouldn't have looked so bad when I told you that time or two. Don't blame me for your short comings. I can't make you the man you are meant to be. Only God! Maybe if you tell God the truth (he knows it already anyway)you will have started the process. For me, you have to come to the table as a man...not a man in progress.